This post is about exactly what you think it’s about: the fact that I don’t care that much about what I wear. It’s not that I don’t care at all. I just don’t care that much. Basically, I don’t care even half as much as Instagram, fashion blogs, and other media think I should. Maybe not even a fourth as much.
Here’s the thing, though: I hate looking or feeling sloppy. My friend in college diagnosed me with “FOLSIP” in jest, or “fear of looking sloppy in public.” I know some girls who can throw on baggy sweatpants, an old t-shirt, and a messy bun with yesterday’s makeup and look straight-up beautiful. This is not the kind of world I can live in, because when I’m sporting that same look, I appear as though I’ve been living under a literal rock for a few years, Patrick Star style.
So, although I don’t like to look sloppy, I don’t care that much about being trendy. (Full honesty? I care way more about comfort being the texture-obsessed-freak that I am.) Most of my jeans are several years old, my t-shirts are old ones from college, my “nice clothes” are accumulated from working in a corporate environment in years past, Stitch Fix (referral link), and a few sales. I like to look put together, but I don’t spend that much time on it. I wear basically the same things week-to-week, rarely shop, and keep pieces for years before donating them.
I really like jewelry and using it to accessorize my [mostly classic, neutral] clothes, so there’s that. And when I go to an event, wedding, or on a date with Riley, I put on makeup and curl my hair, and I feel good about myself and my life. But it’s just not, and never has been, a top priority of mine to be a trendsetter or to buy new outfits every season.
I shuddered yesterday when I thought about how I wore khaki skirted overalls unironically until 7th grade. For the love. Hipsters weren’t even a thing yet.
I wear almost all cotton (again with the textures), lots of t-shirts from my Etsy shop because they’re the softest of all time (I would know, I went through about 12 other tees before settling on these), lots of comfy yoga pants and Nike shorts around the house, and stretchy, broken-in jeans when I’m out. When I pull myself together to go out, I enjoy it, but as soon as I’m back home, it’s back to comfort.
This post is basically pointless, but what I’m trying to say is that we can’t all care about everything all the time. Like, I really love to cook and I highly value a clean house, so I cook and clean a lot. Plenty of other people think that’s a waste of time, and that’s legitimate. I think it’s a waste of time to try to keep up with ever-changing fashion trends. We can all care about different things to different degrees and still get along–that’s what makes life interesting.
So, when it’s a holiday, or a date night, or an event, or a wedding–I’ll show up, dressed nicely, and I’ll look presentable and put-together (probably). I think an outfit can absolutely change the way you feel and infuse you with confidence, but I just don’t obsess over my clothes. I don’t care that much. If they adequately cover my body and make me feel polished to some degree, that’s good enough for me. I won’t over-spiritualize this and say something in Christianese like “I care more about what my heart looks like than what I’m wearing,” because even though that’s true, I don’t think that’s the reason for my laissez-faire fashion sense. I’ve always been this way, even before I was a Christian. See: khaki skirted overalls.
Here’s the bottom line: you don’t have to care a lot about everything. You can care just a little about some things, and you can not care at all about others. I care a medium-low amount about fashionable clothes, I’m not “trendy,” and I want to be comfortable more than I want to be Insta-worthy. What don’t you care about that much?
// Really, tell me. What don’t you care about that much?
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Hi Blair! I am the same as you about clothes. I just don’t care that much about keeping up with the trends and what not. Other thing that I don’t care about is make-up. I just use a little eye-liner and light pink lipstick on most days. I do not have any make-up brushes, foundations and the likes.. and I am 23! ha ha. I also don’t care about heels. I have tried and I have failed – so I prefer comfortable flats/ballets for dresses, no matter how much my friends suggest that heels is the ultimate choice for dresses to look sexy/classy. I also do not care about jewelry, although sometimes I like wearing nice earrings. My jewelry ‘collection’ starts and ends with studs and earrings. I have tried hand and neck jewelry before but I find them uncomfortable 🙂
Krysten Moore says
I’m the same about makeup – a little blush, a little mascara and occasionally a matte lipstick, but contouring? Eyeshadow? Smoky eye? Nope.
I don’t care that much about getting a bigger and better house/car. I am good with staying in a ‘starter house’ with kitchen counters and appliances from the 90’s. I’d much rather travel. For the $5000 it would take us to update our kitchen we could spend a week in Scotland! We will move eventually and leave behind a shiny new fridge but we will always have the photos and memories from travel! ❤️
Amen to this. I just don’t have the time or the energy to be on trend! Things change wayyyy to fast in the fashion world for me to catch up – and half the time I don’t even like trends until they’ve been around long enough to not technically be a “trend” anymore. Generally, as long as I don’t look a wreck, I’m happy!
Mrs. Rooks says
Ditto! I’m very much the same with clothes. Shorts, a tee, and flip flops are my fav. However, I’ve recently started working in a boutique so I’ve had to dress cute for work. It’s not that I don’t find styles cute, I do, I would just rather spend my money on other things rather than a piece of clothing! My main thing I don’t care about is make-up. When it comes down to it.. I love my sleep SO much more than making time to make a work of art on my face. My daily routine is a quick sweep of powdered foundation with mascara and sometimes an eyebrow filler since I’m a redhead and my eyebrows seem to get lost. Lol. Do you have that problem too?!
A Life in Progress... says
I try not to care but where I live it is difficult. If you do not dress a certain way you are often left out. I feel like I’m in High School. I stay at home and do a lot of errands to be cleaning. I need to be comfortable but also be able to get dirty. You can’t do that in “nice” clothes.
Allyson Rogers says
My favorite part was the irrelevant wildflowers! Haha, just kidding.
Elizabeth (@oakandoats) says
hahah! Man. I love this so much because I so agree! Shorts & a tshirt are my jam. But now I’m trying to figure out what I do care about/ spend my time on because it isn’t cooking (for a long shot. I wish I had your passion!) or cleaning (also I wish I had your passion)… or really cloths either! I actually fall more on the sloppy side of that one.. I just went to the store in my leggings with my Patagonia fleece and a messy bun (with yesterdays make up kinda but I don’t wear much of that anyways… so it’s probably all gone anyways.)
I think I spend most of my time working… being outside…and hanging out with friends/ family. haha! And I guess I spend my money eating out!
I’m the same way with clothes! I have a style ‘uniform’ that I feel good in (loose cotton top, skinny jeans, loose cardigan and scarf when it’s cold), but like you most of my clothes are several years old. I like to look put together, and I like my clothes to make me feel confident, but that means I wear what I know I like and don’t experiment or spend too much time trying to choose outfit.
Hi Blair! Im so happy to find your blogs so blessing. It makes me that Im not alone. I love your blog about work at home wife. Well, I was reading many of your blogs… Wish you the best.
Its quite contradictory that I studied fashion design but I dont care much about trend. What important is we love our body.