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I Am Not a Victim of My Circumstances: Thoughts on Abundance

December 13, 2017 by Blair Lamb Filed Under: Soul Food

I am Not a Victim of my Circumstances: Thoughts on Abundance | BlairBlogs.com

I think about everything. I’m serious–I overthink, contemplate, obsess, and ruminate. It’s been a part of who I am for as long as I can remember. I can vividly recall moments in elementary school where I would get so lost in thought that I would be deeply embarrassed when my teacher would call me out and bring me back to the present.

One exception to my overthinking is my birthday each year. I  don’t have any birthday wounds or issues, but neither do I heavily consider or reflect on my age. December 9th comes and goes, I enjoy it and eat a slice of cake and move on. Perhaps it’s because my birthday falls at the end of the year and it’s so close to the new year that I shift my focus to the changing calendar instead. No matter the reason, this is how it goes.

This year was different

But this year was different. I found myself unusually contemplative and reflective of the year. I can pinpoint exactly why, too: I am in such a healthy emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical place right now. I’m living from a perspective of abundance, something I have fought for over the course of 2017.

This year started out rough. My soul was downcast and heavy. I felt defeated. I was living in complete scarcity. Because I live in a boring small town, my life is going to be boring and small. Because there aren’t women my age here, I’m going to be lonely. Because I’m not a mom, I have no point of connection. I’m missing out. I’m wasting my life. I’ll never feel like myself again. This tape played in my head every day, all day, all the time. I had no hope for redemption because I couldn’t see how my heartbreak could be redeemed–I felt surrounded by darkness. The best word to describe this time is miserable. I was truly, deeply miserable. (Those of you who have followed with my Rooted series know.)

I am not a victim

It took many months for me to stand on the truth that I am not a victim. This song helped. Because of Jesus, I am not a victim. I don’t have to live in scarcity. All those italicized thoughts? They’re lies. Those things are not true of my life or identity because those things are not God’s will for my life. The God I serve is abundance embodied. Abundant joy, abundant love, abundant peace, abundant contentment. Abundant life.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” -John 10:10, NKJV, emphasis mine

I allowed my faith, joy, peace, and hope to be stolen from me. I fully bought into the lies of the enemy that misery was my destiny and I had lost myself and my true identity through my circumstances. Not anymore!

I am a daughter of the King, I am restored and whole through Jesus, and my life has purpose and meaning because of the Lord. I don’t live in a land of scarcity; I live in one of abundance.

Perspective can change even when circumstances do not

Many of you know that the circumstances that sent me into a tailspin remain almost exactly the same in my life. From the outside, “on paper” if you will, my life looks the same today as it did at this time last year. But I am so, so changed.

I see my life as a room full of open doors and possibilities rather than a dark pit of despair. I feel brave and secure and hopeful. I know God holds my future, and I really, actually trust him with it. If he can redeem and resurrect my life in Gainesville, he is truly a God of the impossible.

25 year old Blair was terrified, paralyzed, angry, bitter, and miserable. 26 year old Blair is secure, courageous, joyful, compassionate, and at peace. If that’s not a testimony of Jesus, I don’t know what is. I am thankful like I can’t say for another year of life, for more chances to learn and grow, for more time to fall in love with Christ.

My soul is rooted in Jesus Christ; therefore, I can be rooted wherever I am.

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Comments

  1. gradybird says

    December 13, 2017 at 10:52 am

    YES to all of this, Blair. You are amazing. I am so grateful to know you, sister! <3

  2. Heather Storm says

    December 13, 2017 at 11:31 am

    “My soul is rooted in Jesus Christ; therefore, I can be rooted wherever I am.” What a powerful statement! Great post.

  3. Mrs. Rooks says

    December 13, 2017 at 1:36 pm

    That last line made me tear up a bit. I’m so happy that this last year has brought you to that peace. So much grace and so many blessings!

  4. Jessica says

    December 13, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Hi, Blair. Your story is so encouraging to me. I feel like I’ve been going through a similar journey lately only I’ve been longing for a husband rather than community. I’m nowhere near as contented with my situation as you are with yours. Maybe you covered this is your Rooted series, but I would be interested in a post about different books or resources that helped you reach a place of contentment and peace.

  5. Brianna says

    December 14, 2017 at 9:42 am

    I love this post! I haven’t been watching or reading your stuff for too long, but as soon as I started I related to you immediately, and that hasn’t changed. I truly believe that if we lived in the same area, we’d be great friends. We’re very much at the same point in life and have a strong faith in our Lord.

    Thank you for sharing this post. I’m so glad you’re feeling joy and happiness again. God is so good.

    Happy Holidays!

    -Brianna (Diva and the Divine)

  6. Lisa Ellen Blogs says

    December 14, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    This is very encouraging to me to read this! I am exactly where you were last year and it is uplifting to know that it does get better. I grew up in New York and I am now in a small town in Lancaster County, Pa ……. Ciao Lisa

  7. Becca- thepersistentpineapple says

    December 16, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    Loved this post, Blair! You have no idea how much I relate to this. Thank you for this post- I seriously got goosebumps reading it. So much truth here. Love and hugs to you <3

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